Like people telling you to calm the F down.
This morning my anxiety was bad. So bad, in fact, that I was still in bed at 12pm. I’ve missed yoga, skipped work and am still lying exactly where I was 12 hours ago.
But that’s how anxiety goes. Just as soon as you think the frantic planning, sleepless nights and sinking stomach have gone away for a while, they come back and hit you harder than ever.
So this morning I gave in. Instead of filling every second with distractions, I stopped fighting and decided to listen to what my anxiety had to say.
Turns out it can teach you a lot about what it doesn’t need when you listen…
1. Facebook is not your friend right now
In the midst of a really anxious episode, scrolling through your social media feed only serves to heighten those feelings of low self-esteem, worry and FOMO.
Try: Turning your phone off for an hour. I felt so much more focused and in control.
2. Making major life decisions
As long as you have milk in the fridge and teabags in the cupboard, everything else can wait. Now is not the time to decide to quit your job and become a YouTube sensation.
Try: Writing down what’s going through your mind even if it makes no sense.
3. Trying to control your brain
One thing meditation has taught me is to stop fighting my thoughts. Once you let them happen, those circling worries tend to ease off.
Try: Downloading a meditation app like Headspace. It will change your life.
I am terrible for trying to do a million things at once – and that’s why I often feel so anxious.
Try: Mentally parking each thought that comes in to your mind and telling yourself you’ll address it later. Write it down on paper if you have to just to get it out.
5. Beating yourself up
You need to practice some self-care right now, not berate yourself for being a failure.
Try: Feeling less alone by reading about other people who suffer. I Quit Sugar‘s Sarah Wilson has just written a brilliant book all about anxiety called First, We Make The Beast Beautiful. In it, she talks openly about her own struggles and how she overcomes them.
6. Drinking wine
It’s so tempting to pour a glass “just to take the edge off”. But, sorry to be the bearer of bad news, you will always feel worse the next day. Drinking stops you sleeping properly and alters your mood.
Try: Treating yourself to chocolate instead. It’s just as soothing.
If you’re feeling anxious all the time, see your doctor.
From Cosmo UK
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