There’s no need to dread meeting a potential bae.
Getting ready for a date is never easy. Between the expectations, jitters, and anticipation, it usually never goes as planned. It doesn’t matter if you’re 16 or 60, diving headfirst into the dating pool can be terrifying, especially when it comes to first dates. It’s often awkward and a bit uncomfortable.
Ever been on a date peppered with so many uncomfortable pauses that time seemed to drag on forever? Read below for a quick guide to making your dating life more rewarding and less painful.
Take A breather
Just because there’s an awkward moment of silence occasionally doesn’t mean the date’s destined for disaster. Sometimes, silence can lead to a cute moment of eye contact or mean both of you just need a second to digest all you’ve discussed.
Similarly, don’t get ahead of yourself. Remember that a first date is just that — a FIRST date. After just a few hours together, you shouldn’t expect to slap a label on your newfound relationship. Relax and don’t add so much pressure to the situation. It’s not like you can’t have a good time with someone, although you don’t feel any romantic spark.
When someone’s talking to you, it’s important that you allow him to feel heard. By looking at your phone or around the room, you may be sending the message that you’re not interested in what they have to say.
Not paying attention is an easy way to bring a conversation to an end and silence the person talking. Listen, ask questions, and just be present. Everyone loves to talk about themselves. If you’re nervous at the beginning, encourage your companion to do the chatting until you’ve calmed down. The calmer you are, the calmer your partner.
Ask Questions, Don’t Interrogate
Keep in mind that there is a difference between a job interview and a date. During an interview, it’s best to keep things professional, but when it comes to dating, it’s totally fine to be quirky. After all, we’re all different and kooky in our own individual ways. Your true self will emerge eventually, so why hide it at the beginning? Come up with creative ways to carry on the conversation, and ask them some out-of-the-box questions to help break the ice. Don’t be afraid to be a little unconventional and goofy—it’ll help you get past the nerves. Remember: nobody’s perfect.
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