It's fine if you just want to spend it with your side of the family.
When it comes to Christmas, daily routine usually includes drowning in Bailey’s, slobbing out on the sofa and eating our own body weight in Quality Street – but there’s a certain amount of stress that comes with the festive period, too.
What presents are you going to get people? Do you have anything to wear to the office party? How do you choose between Christmas with your parents or your S/O’s family?
While we can’t help you with the first two Christmassy conundrums (side note: get them candles and YOU LOOK LOVELY), don’t feel like you have to spend December 25 with your boyfriend’s family if you don’t want to – because these are legit reasons if you don’t fancy it.
1. You have family traditions you don’t want to break
Everybody knows Christmas is a time for family, and the chances are you and yours do the same things every year that you’d be sad to miss. Whether that involves a walk before dinner, sending the letters up to Santa on Christmas Eve or similar, it’s tough to adapt to other people’s traditions – so it’s OK if you don’t want to.
2. Trains don’t run on Boxing Day
Which means spending Christmas with your S/O also often means spending Boxing Day with them too, and whilst we’re not saying that would be awful/ungodly/crappy af (it would probably be the opposite), it does mean you spend less time with your own family.
3. You’re worried their roast potatoes won’t be as good as your family’s
C’mon it’s true, isn’t it? There’s always a worry that your expectations of Christmas – whether that’s the decorations, how low-key you have your celebrations or how much honey you like on your parsnips won’t be met anywhere other than your own house, right?
4. What happens with presents?
Now this one isn’t as vulgar as it sounds, but honestly, are you meant to take any presents you’ve been given from friends and family to your S/O’s family’s house? What if your family do lots of little presents and their’s do one big one each? What if you have a price limit and they don’t? Yes this might be solved with a little conversation, but it’s still a lot of Christmas stress.
5. Your family would be offended if you didn’t spend it with them
This is often what it boils down to, isn’t it? Whether it’s the first or millionth Christmas you spend away from home, it’s probably always going to upset your family – due to the fact they understandably want you to spend Christmas with them. As much as the in-laws are important, trying not to upset your mum is probs more of a priority.
6. You don’t feel ready yet
A valid and legitimate reason to not spend Christmas with your S/O? You just don’t feel ready yet. Regardless of whether you’ve been together weeks, months or years, there is no unwritten rule that outlines that you have to alternate between December 25th at their family’s house and at yours, so if you don’t feel ready to fly your own nest? Don’t.
7. Some of your family members are getting old
And we mean that in the least morbidly way possible. If you’ve got grandparents or relatives that may not enjoy Christmas as much as they do now in years to come, it’s OK if you prioritise creating memories to treasure with them over your S/O.
8. You live miles away from each other
Boxing Day trains aside, this can raise some issues of it’s own because Christmas is expensive without thinking about petrol and/or trains not only from where you live, but to your family home (if it’s elsewhere) and then on to your S/O’s? No, thanks!
9. You love their family – but not as much as your own
Yeah, we’re just gonna leave this one here.
10. Or you just don’t get on with them at all
Also just going to leave this one here.
11. You don’t have time
When it comes to getting time off work for the Christmas break, it’s quite nice to be able to do exactly what you want, with who you want and when you want to; of course your S/O undoubtedly comes into this, but your own family and friends will be heavily factored into it.
12. You’re a creature of habit and don’t like change
Sorry but if your S/O’s dad can’t do a King Kong impression as well as your granddad’s after 5 mulled wines, it’s probably not worth the effort.
Are we the worst Grinch-meets-girlfriend you’ve ever met? Probably.
From COSMO UK
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