How many are you guilty of?
Ahh, parents. We’ve all got them. Whilst they can be annoying at times and generally seem to have no clue about the 21st century (or is that just ours?), they usually have your best interests at heart – which is why we should all stop with the white lies and try to tell the truth more.
Whilst we slip into the habit of it because telling little lies seems so much easier the alternative sometimes, it’s actually not as necessary as you think – because is telling the truth really that much of a bad idea when these 8 things are involved?
Your mental health
This one is SO important. If you’re not in a good place, you shouldn’t for one second feel like you have to make out like everything is dandy to your parents. Don’t pretend to be fixed if you’re broken. They love you unconditionally and will help you through anything, so be open and truthful and deep about your feelings, because ultimately? They will help you like no one else.
Your love life
Whether it’s a Christmas cliche or not, movies always seem to make a huge deal about family members asking single women about their non-existent boyfriends and ‘when they’ll need to put another seat at the table’. But REAL TALK: it’s absolutely OK to be single in December or otherwise, and having an S/O does not define you or your worth. Maybe it’s time to tell your parents that, rather than pretending.
Your bank balance
Surely your mum knows by now that your spare cash went on those shoes in Charles & Keith? We’re all guilty of a splurge now and again, and by lying about it, you’ll end up biting yourself on the a$$ when your mum asks where all your savings went and if you’re able to pay up front for the replacement laptop you need. Answer: no.
Not knowing what you want out of the future is normal for any twentysomething anyone, so honesty is without a doubt the best policy when it comes to discussing that with your parents. Do you want a career change? Do you want children? Do you want to move to who knows where and live with 15 dogs and no human contact for 90 miles? Well, now that we mention that last one…
Now this one sounds worse than it actually is – ‘cos by this we mean stuff like ‘I’ll make sure I get a taxi home if it’s after 10pm’ or ‘I never go home alone on a bus after a night out’. If YOU feel safe enough to go about your daily life as an independent woman, you should explain that to your parents – because lying to them and doing the thing you pretend not to do will only make it worse if you get found out.
Your personal life
Whether your best friend from childhood screwed you over, mum’s best friend’s daughter turns out to be a d!ck or you’re no longer in touch with that boy you once thought was ‘The One’, that’s OK – and you can open up to your parents about this. They’ve known you the longest and will genuinely have your best interests at heart (plus it means they’ll avoid inviting their BFF’s shitty daughter around for drinks).
Your antics in general
It’s easy to forget your parents were young once (it’s hard to even think about), so the chances are they’ve done things they’re probably not supposed to, too. So if you enjoy the occasional cigarette, let people buy you drinks on a night out or have a one night stand (or 6), that is OK. Tell them lying is worse than the antic itself.
Your physical health
It’s never good to keep anything that might be worrying you about your general well being to yourself, regardless of how small you think it might be. A problem shared is a problem halved – and after the litres of honey and lemon your parents probably made you as a kid, a quick conversation about the sore throat you can’t get rid of is no bad thing.
Ultimately, they want to help you and see you happy – and even if you think telling a white lie is the easy way out, it’s probably not the best in the long run.
From Cosmo UK
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