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Why Having A Few Close Friends Is Better For You Than Being Part Of A Squad

Science says popularity doesn't make you happier in the long-term.

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With TS shoving her squad in your face at every given opportunity, it would make total sense if anyone without a big group of bezzers was left feeling a bit crap about themselves and their friendships.

Are you a broken, rubbish human if you can’t get a gaggle of women together for a selfie? Previously you might have thought so, but now there is full on, real life, legit scientific evidence to prove having a squad isn’t all its cracked up to be after all.

Medical Daily reports new research from University of Virginia, published in the journal Child Development, studied 160 teenagers over 10 years until they turned 25. Every year, they were questioned on their friendships. Researchers also interviewed them to figure out if they were dealing with anxiety, self-esteem, depression or any social issues. Their close pals (who the researchers stated were “supportive with displays of attachment”) were also questioned.

The teenagers who dedicated time to fostering intimate and close friendships aged 15 were much happier by the time they turned 25. They experienced less social anxiety later on, too. And those who were “popular” throughout high school and had a lot of friends were found to have higher anxiety levels 10 years later.

“Our research found that the quality of friendships during adolescence may directly predict aspects of long-term mental and emotional health,” said Rachel K. Narr, PhD, who led the study. “High school students with higher-quality best friendships tended to improve in several aspects of mental health over time, while teens who were popular among their peers during high school may be more prone to social anxiety later in life.”

So why is this? The scientists reckon it’s because having positive experiences with close friends at an early age only helps to promote positive feelings about yourself – especially at a time when you’re figuring out your own personal identity. It also sets their expectations for friendships pretty high, as when they go into adult life, they’ll be looking for encouragement and support from new pals.

So if you don’t have a massive group of mates and hang out with just a few proper good eggs, don’t worry. It’s totally normal and it also probably means you’re a happier person.

From Cosmo UK

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